Sha Philosophy – Chapter9: RELATIONSHIP
The amicability between one creature and the other is said to be the relationship. It is in the form of connection ( tie ). This will transform into relation. In other words, “ relationship” is that power, which creates affinity ( liking ) between one individual and the other.
Let us examine the kinds of “ relationship ” among the human beings. The first relative to any one is mother. She declares another individual as father. He confirms the same to the understanding of that individual. Then father becomes next relative to that individual. Till that individual grows up and marries, his ( her ) relatives are mother, father, brothers and sisters. As soon as that individual marries, the woman, who comes into his life as a relative due to the tie of that marriage, is wife. In case of women, that relative is husband. Keeping this relationship in view, the father and the mother of those newly wedded couple become relatives to them as the father- in – law and the mother- in – law respectively. Because of this marriage tie between wife and husband, children are born. Then they too become relatives to those couple.
In this way the connections ( relationships ) are formed in the way of human lives in this world. These connections among the individuals form vavi ( consanguinity ) and varusa ( relationships such as uncle, aunt, coson – in – law, cousin and so on ) are treated as family ties or relations.
To know the answer for the question, “ who is the real relative? “ let us examine these family relations.
Though the father, mother, brother and sister are connected by blood and form kinship, the individual gives priority in love and affinity only to his ( her ) lawful wife ( husband ). Indeed man shows profound love and affinity towards the woman he marries lawfully and then towards his children. However, man shows love and affection towards his relatives, who are connected by blood, like father, mother etc, so long as they help him. It is quite natural in this world that, whenever the individuals develop dislike in the deeds, character and motives of their relatives, even though they are connected by blood, their relationship ceases. Owing to this dislike, even the love and affection towards wife and children ( who are connected more closely by blood than these relatives ) may impair at certain point of time and they also cease to be called relatives.
The connection formed by means of like – mindedness is friendship. This relationship is complimentary ( reciprocal ) and based on mutual understanding. This is much more superior to the above relations, which are formed by connection of blood. The relationship formed by such friendliness is inseparable. Such relationship is found only in true friendship, which is the semblance of truth. Such friendship is stainless and pure. Such friendship is very rare. It is the result of realization of unity of soul ( fusion of souls ). If the souls of friends fuse and become one, there won’t be any other relationship, which is superior to such friendship in this world. However, there is scope for even such relationship to break, when these friends settle down in foreign countries by departing from each other.
Now, let us deliberate, which relationship is permanent and who a true relative is !
Whenever man is in distress, he cries for “ swami ( Supreme Being ) to relieve him of that affliction. If he questions, in what form that Supreme Being is, he may resolve it to be in the form of energy, which transcends his capacity. Suppose, he wants to manifest it, then who can manifest it to him ? The individual, who can manifest it to him, is Guru ( Master ). Then the man takes refuge in that Guru to realize Swami (Supreme Being ). If that Guru happens to be a Sathguru ( True Master ), He guides His disciple ( who takes refuge in him ) to lead a harmonious life in the society in the following manner.
Though, the above – mentioned relatives ( viz mother, father, brother, sister, wife, children and so on ) are proved to have favourable feelings, and their connections are complimentary ( reciprocal ), at certain point of time they may cause troubles to the individuals. In such a situation Sathguru makes ( blesses ) His disciple to overcome such troubles by taking them in right perspective.
. Sathguru trains His disciple, to give equal status and respect to the person, who becomes an intimate relative to His disciple by means of bosom friendship and also to maintain reciprocal relationship with him.
. Sathguru trains His disciple, how to acquire equable mind ( nature ) and amicable behaviour. Because of this, even when his enemy visualizes the form this disciple ( i.e., whenever the enemy remembers this disciple ), that enemy drops his enmity from his mind and thinks of changing into a friend and becomes appeased.
In this way Sathguru transforms His disciple into an amicable personality, so that the people think about him as Lokabandhu ( universal friend or relative ). In addition to this, the Sathguru protects His disciple in physical as well as in subtle manner. He also teaches His disciple, the illustrious subject originated from Eeswara ( God ) known as Supreme Knowledge. Such a great Sathguru is indeed the real relative. Such a Sathguru shows enormous unconditional or spontaneous love towards His disciple. Because of this, the disciple becomes as equalent as his Sathguru. Then the disciple is said to be the great divine energy originated from Eeswara ( God ). Then the disciple realizes that his own dwelling place is viradrupa ( primordial or Cosmic Form ). At the junction of this realization i.e. at the point of union of man with Eeswara ( God ), indeed the Rasaswarupa ( Miraculous Brilliant Divine Light ), which is Viradrupa itself, is the relative to the human form, which is in the form of Tejas ( Spiritual Light ).
Aham = “ I “,
Brahma = Eeswara ( God )
Asmi = Became.
This “ Asmi ( became ) “ is an expression, which signifies the transformation of the feeling of self or “ I “ ( The natural state of soul ) into Eeswara ( God ). This expression “ Asmi (became ) “ is the sound, which explains the equality of the meanings of expressions “ I ( Soul )” and Brahma ( Eeswara or God ). i.e. , the word sound “ Asmi “ expresses the connection ( relationship ) of “ I ( Soul ) “ with God ( Supreme Soul ) in right perspective. In other words, the feeling of self ( “ I “ or Soul ) and God ( Supreme Soul ) are indeed realized as one and the same after “ I “ became God.
This is indeed the true meaning of relationship. The Rasaswarupa ( Miraculous Brilliant Divine Light) is indeed true relative.